You hear a lot about self-improvement, I’ve a shelf full of books on the subject and was a true advocate of bigger-better-faster-more.  Then I grew up, gained confidence in life and took a step back to think about what is it that we’re REALLY that we’re trying to improve and WHY?

Is it the achievement or the learning, the destination or the journey?  Take a few examples – you want to win a race or complete a half-marathon, but see running as painful and a chore – you want to be a great author, but find the writing itself to be slow and difficult –  you want to start a business and work for yourself, only to hit a wall when you realise the enormity of the task in hand.

So what do the self-help books do? I’ve come to the conclusion they give us the tools and structure to attack the things we worry and fret we ‘should’ and ‘need’ to be doing (but generally don’t want to…)

You cannot force willpower upon yourself by way of habit and change, it’s a short term coping mechanism, not a route to ‘self-improvement’ – why keep smacking the square peg into the round hole until it goes in?  I would suggest instead that that self-improvement will not come until we find the passion in what it is we are doing.

The runner discovers peace and calm out on the road, forgetting the pain. The writer gives in to the joy of playing with words, moving past the imposed ‘structure’ he’d given himself. The entrepreneur finds purpose and control of his life, and stops noticing the long days.

You can spend your life fretting about how healthy, interesting, or successful you are. In fact, a huge industry depends upon this, and is eager to help you make plans to change.

On the other hand, you might consider simply finding the passion in what you do, or want to do, and letting the rest take care of itself……


You Can Do This.